Someone else’s treasure

July 21st, 2014

I am unsure whether it is by nature or reverse psychology nurture that I am most assuredly a non-hoarder.  I grew up in a house where the paper on which I tested out marker colors or doodled while I was talking on the phone was immediately signed, dated, and stored away.  No, no.  My parents had no illusions of grandeur about my future fame status, it was just every thing was to be treasured.  Sentimentality was immediately assigned to almost every item that entered our home–whether truly worthy or not.  Memories were foisted onto items and those items were cherished as if they were living, breathing embodiments of those with whom they were associated.  Objects became the physical milestones of our lives and triggers for memories.  My parents have boxes and boxes of such things that they cannot bear to let go.  They NEVER let me close to them because I would smile fondly at my five-year-old self’s sticks-and-balloons interpretation of my family and then happily chunk it in the trash.

I have obviously gone the opposite direction from my parents in this regard, which is why it comes as no surprise but a rather karmic sense of irony that Bryan and I inherited a house full of such treasures.  Not inherited in the “designated as part of an estate” but rather “stuff that resided in the house we were moving into which became our problem”.  This did not come with the freedom to ruthlessly discard all of the items, alas, no.  Because that would be too easy.  All of this stuff is not ours at all but belonged to Bryan’s grandfather and therefore belong to Bryan’s parents.  We are merely the ones who have to store it.

I wrote about Bryan’s grandfather and what a paragon of…well…everything good he was.  He was an outstanding person.  His sacrifices for both country and family are staggering.  He lived life simply and well.  Upon his death, he left behind a legacy of love, devotion, and wisdom that I fear we will never be able to replicate.  I may have also mentioned that his legacy included all of his 89 years of accumulated possessions.  When he died, everyone was distraught.  Bryan’s parents could not bear to deal with a house full of the markers of his life.  This house we now live in is steeped in his memories and that sounds creepy but it isn’t, really.  We have chosen to keep and highlight a few of our favorite treasures but there are many, many, many treasures that we have neither the room nor the inclination to continue to store.  It’s sad how these items, so impregnated with assigned meaning and memories to symbolize the whole host of emotions, have now become little more than a bother to us.  I recognize how horrendous that is and I struggle with my guilt…

 

Okay, not really.

 

I am entirely too practical in this regard (no other, please note) to let it bother me too much.  I am honestly just thrilled to death that we are finally getting to the point that we can BEGIN to empty out the basement.  For the past 18 months, we have made what amounts to rabbit trails through the basement to get to things we need on an irregular basis.  There are hutches, tables, beds, couches, knick-knacks, tools, pictures, books, appliances, younameitwehaveit stored down there.  And it’s been driving me crazy.  Don’t misread me–we have our fair share of crap.  While I am definitely not a saver, I AM guilty of shoving things downstairs in a fit of frantic decluttering (I call it “clearing my space”) without really stopping to think if we still NEED the items.  I am also only one half of the adult part of this family.  Bryan leans more toward sentimentality and the “I may eventually NEED this” end of the spectrum than I do.  It’s fine.  We cope.

 

So, with my in-laws’ blessing, I’ve been going through stuff to get ready for that time-honored tradition of a yard sale.  We are sending the “good stuff” to an antique auction but there are things here that do not qualify as “good stuff”.  It’s just junk.  Or rather, someone else’s treasure.  I am sure if we were so inclined, we could clean up, refinish, repurpose, re-whatever this stuff to turn it into a fabulous what-not in the right home but none of us are inclined to do so.  I have neither the eye for those kinds of projects nor the desire.  I would happily take pictures of it from artistic angles but that’s about where my interest ends.

 

Getting ready for a yard sale is dirty, frustrating work.  I find that I generally think of yard sales as an opportunity for someone to pay ME to haul MY CRAP away.  It works well.  I do not make a ton of money but STUFF is GONE, which is my ultimate goal.  I always underprice stuff and I can usually be talked down from there.  This does not make me a good business woman but it does get rid of junk.  And I am ALWAYS inclined to just load up stuff to to take to the Goodwill immediately when the sale ends.  But I abhor getting ready for yard sales.  I would MUCH rather just throw stuff away.  I hate those awkward moments when people pull up and browse around and then ask if I’ll take $13 for the couch I’ve priced at $15.  I hate the whole process of it.  But here I am, spending these last, dwindling days of obligation-free summer sifting through other people’s possessions, trying to discern what to do with them.  My fingernails are dirty, my clothes are dusty, and I have been made uncomfortably aware of the number of spiders and bugs who are currently living rent-free in our basement.  Hopefully, we will widen the rabbit trails and bring a portion of the chaos into some sense of order.  Hopefully, the yard-sale gods will be smiling on us and we’ll break into the triple digits.  Hopefully, at the end of the day, our trip to Goodwill will be accomplished with the SUV as opposed to the trailer.  Hopefully, the big stuff will sell.  Hopefully, Bryan will get a break from the complaining his wife does as she does the basement Twister* dance to get to the junk WE have stored in our basement.

 

*You know, left hand on tool chest, right foot between old tax forms and tackle boxes, jump, twirl, right hand on yellow tub, left foot on rubbermaid container, scale the dresser, stub your toe, shake fist at husband, straddle wrapping paper container, snatch fall decorations before they fall on my head.  You know this dance, RIGHT?

 

Thursday Random-ness

July 10th, 2014

Crap…is it even Thursday?  Seriously, I get completely out of touch during the summer time.

 

1) If I had stupid, ridiculous money…

Bryan and I play the Stupid Money Game…you know the one I’m talking about.  The “if we won/happened upon/suddenly inherited a stupid and obscene amount of money what would you do?” game.  I think I take this game to an unhealthy level but I do know exactly what I would do.  Does everyone have a Stupid Money plan?  Or does that just show the level of crazy that I have unlocked?  Honestly, does this require a PLAN?  I mean, the chance of coming into Stupid Money is MUCH, MUCH smaller than…say…getting attacked by a hippopotamus yet I do not find myself musing over my plan for THAT, do I?  I suppose it does if you’re an obsessive-compulsive dreamer.  Regardless, my plan involves immediately jerking everyone out of school and work and  planting my family squarely in a posh suite on a Disney cruise.  For 6 months.  Bryan whole-heartedly supports this plan.  In fact, it was HIS idea but I adopted it as the family plan.  The only problem will be staving off rapid on-set morbid obesity but I’d be willing to give it a shot.

 

2) My state just recently passed a traffic law that I call the “Move the Hell Over Law”.  I think you’re familiar with the concept.  Basically, if you’re going slower than the person behind you in the left lane of a multi-lane road, you need to Get the Hell Over.  I SO, SO, SO want to see someone ticketed for this.  In fact, I have some suggested targets.  I swear there are some people who aggressively target drivers like myself who happen to think that the angle between the gas pedal and the floorboard should be extremely acute.  I realize that some people think it is their job, nay, their RIGHT and OBLIGATION, to slow me down but unless they have a badge and a radar gun, it just isn’t.  What they do not realize is that people who are speeding are actually doing them a FAVOR, yes?  Speeders are drawing the attention and ire of officers who are, undoubtedly, getting very bored and about to start ticketing for ridiculous offenses hence saving the slower, less opportunistic drivers from trumped up tickets like “failure to maintain lane” or “failure to signal” or some such nonsense.  You’re welcome.  I always appreciate and think fondly of those (few) who blaze a speedy path around me.  Go ahead, fellow speed demon, draw the radar of those hidden police officers.  So, if you live in my state, please remember to kindly GET THE HELL OUT OF MY WAY.  Now, I have the full backing of the legal community behind me.  And if they’re going faster than I am, I will definitely get out of their way.

 

3) My kids are finally at the age where they are becoming rational little beings and as such, I have managed to talk them into the following sweet deal.  Instead of a birthday party and in lieu of gifts, we have offered them interest-oriented trips.  Drew chose a salt water fishing trip for his birthday trip in June.  This zippered nicely into our fervent desire to get away to the beach and kind of needing an excuse.  Malyn’s birthday is in August and she desperately wants to go to one of those indoor water resorts.  So while the entire beach vacation cost WAY more than we’d spend on any combination of party/gifts/food we’d spend, Drew’s actual excursion cost was WAY less than we’d spend.  I priced out Malyn’s trip and it falls in line almost precisely with what we spent on Drew’s.  Yay.  If there is any way that you can steer your children in this direction, I’d suggest it.

 

4) Am I the only teacher who gets resentful that I scheduled so many doctor/dental visits in the summer?  I mean, I KNOW practically-speaking that summer is the IDEAL time to get all of those pesky maintenance visits over with but I HATE the thought that my idle work-freendays are spent being poked, prodded, investigated, smooshed, and generally just violated.  And I don’t even MIND medical visits.  I have reached a new level of pathetic when I don’t want my 60 days of lazy interrupted for any reason…not even my health.